Changes Inside of Ourselves- Believe!

     Self-image is tied up with self-worth. No one can create a healthy self-image for us…we must do it for ourselves.  This is an especially difficult task for someone who has been abused. This goes for children as well as adults and any type of abuse: verbal, physical, sexual, and emotional.
      Changing the way we look at ourselves is hard, but it can be done. Issues of doubt pervade every aspect of decision making for the abused. All sorts of “What if …” enters conscious and subconscious thought. What if I fail?  What if I’m not loved? etc. etc. There is a large hole, left by the current or previous abuse, that is in constant need of refilling.
      In order to fill that hole…some overeat, some drink or use perscription drugs to numb the memories,some indulge in many unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships to make themselves feel “loved.” The end result is the same: there is no change in the level of self-worth.  We have convinced ourselves that our abuse was/is deserved because we aren’t worth anything better.  We continue the abuse, literally, by now abusing our own minds and bodies.  You give yourself the opportunity to heal when you realize how special and unique you are.
      What is your gift that only you can offer the world?  Everyone has at least one “gift”…everyone. God has seen to that. It goes hand in hand that when you like yourself and have a positive self-image…others will like you as well. Knowing that we each have enormous self-worth is the ladder to healthy self-image. Believe!

April is National Child Abuse Month; The Great Equalizer…CHILD ABUSE!

April is National Child Abuse Month.  This is the month to make a difference in a child’s life


      Abuse does not discriminate by gender, age, religion, ethnicity, or social status. Indeed, it really is the one time that: ALL MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL.   It can be delivered to the offended by sexual, physical, emotional, or verbal abuse.  Each and every one of these types of abuse is equally as damaging to our self-esteem, our souls, or our physical being…if we let it prevail during our life.
      Whether we are being abused now or have been abused in the past,  it in no way defines either who we are… or who we are able to become. We are what we choose for ourselves; we are not defined by what has been said or done to us!
      The road is wide open, but it is up to us to take the first step.  The abuser can not love themselves, therefore they are unable (or unwilling) to love us.  It is never because we are unworthy of being loved.  But do we love ourselves?  Today, is a good day to start.  Be a person that is admired by being a person who values his/her own self-worth.
     Find yourself, while Blessings and strength find you.