We all want to learn how to live a happy life. For a long time I wondered what it took to be sincerely happy and have inner peace. As I pursued money, relationships, and career success, I thankfully realized that happiness doesn’t come from the outside; happiness comes from within each of us. Eureka.
It is something that is present all the time within you and me. Imagine the layers of an onion being your negative beliefs, thoughts, and fears. As you peel away the layers, (what you are not), you eventually reach the core (who you really are). We are all here on Earth to find meaning and purpose.
Learning how to live a happy life is not about locking yourself in a closet and meditating for the rest of your life. We as human beings are designed to set and achieve goals, so we need goals to feel fulfilled. These are all only a piece of the pie of living a happy life, but we have to keep in mind that it is not the external things in our lives that make us happy, but rather what is going on inside of us.
Making the Choice
It all begins with the choice to be happier, to start studying the commonalities of happy people. What are they doing? How do they think? How do they face challenges? Most people want something for nothing. If your life isn’t as good as you want it to be right now, you are the only one that can change it for the better.
You have to become clear about what you want in life and who you want to be. You do not have to settle for mediocrity. Almost every limit in our lives is set by ourselves. Think about that for a moment. Most of the negative beliefs you have, you have learned from your parents, society, and friends.
They can all be eliminated. You can take control of your destiny and be happy. You can shape your future as you want it. Now, I realize that we can’t control everything in life, but you certainly can create a happy life if you choose to. Just look at the people all around you that are already living the life of their dreams. It didn’t happen because they were ” lucky.” Most likely, they did not inherit their happiness from their parents. They created it for themselves..
You alone are responsible for your life. You may think you have “valid” excuses/ reasons of why you’re not as successful or happy as you should be. Our excuses don’t matter, because they won’t change anything. Do you want to give your excuses the power of controlling your life? Or do you want to reclaim the power that you’ve always had? It is God-given to all of us.
You can whine, blame, and make excuses all you want, but it will only keep you stuck. If you look at some of the happiest and most successful people on the planet, you will see that most of them did not come from privileged backgrounds. In fact, many of them had to face brutal challenges in order to get to where they are. The ironic thing is that it wasn’t their problems or challenges that held them back from a happier life. The drama and problems we face in life help us grow as human beings if we have the courage to face them and get through them.
Learning how to live a happy life is about learning how you work. It is up to you to take control of your own being. By that I mean your thoughts, your health, and the path you are on. You can go after your dreams and you can make a living doing what you want, if you would just make the decision to do so.
It really isn’t any harder than that. Learning how to live a happy life… almost happens by itself when you make the decision that you are going to be happy and not miserable.
When you make the decision, the next step is to set clear goals of what you want to achieve in each of the main areas of your life.
The main areas in life are:
- Personal Growth
Use the SMART criteria, which stands for:
Many sit in the passenger seat of the car that is their life. They let the car go where it wants to go and then complain when it ends up in a wrong place or worse yet, a ditch!
Successful and happy people take control of the wheel and steer the car where they want to go.
Never underestimate how much you can get done by taking one single step, each day, toward your goals.
Learning how to live a happy life is about focusing on the tasks that have the biggest impact on your life.
For example, if you want to lose weight, stop smoking, drinking to excess you have to focus on changing your habits and beliefs.
When you set your goals, you know the direction you need to go in. You don’t have to know exactly how you will get there, but you do have to take one step every single day, or as often as possible to make it happen.
Nothing happens without action. Don’t talk about it; do it! When you can take consistent action in the right direction and work on the most valuable tasks, you can accomplish anything you want.
Most people underestimate the power of focus, determination, and action. When you’ve found a goal that sets your soul on fire and makes joy pump through your veins, it will be almost impossible for you not to take action. For me, it was improving the lives of children. I felt like I had to do it, but didn’t know where or how to start.
Quickly, I learned that excuses, fears, or obstacles could not stand in the way. It has been in the journey that I have learned to be the happiest. I have failed so many times, but still I persist.
It wasn’t until I got this fire inside me that I started making progress. Something funny happens when you make the choice to live a happy life. It’s almost as if the universe conspires to help you. Learning how to live a happy life keeps coming back to the decision… to actually do it.
Many of us expect a fire to start without first putting wood in the stove. Our lives will never be perfect and the stars will never accurately align. The “perfect” circumstances we need will not occur until we actually take action. It is each of us who has to take the first step. It can not be done for us.
Follow Your Passion
Most of us know what our heart yearns for, but we are afraid to go after it. It is often the thing that we’re afraid of doing, but desperately want to do, that is our passion and purpose in life. I remember a few years ago before I started this blog. I was afraid that I had nothing to contribute to the world with my writing. I was afraid of the fact that I wasn’t good enough.
Fortunately, I stood up to my fears. I wasn’t going to let anything stand in my way of doing what I love. Amazingly, as I started writing, dozens of people read and responded to my writing. And right now, tens of thousands of people read my content every single month.
I sincerely believe that the feelings we have about going after our passion are unfounded. They are there to challenge and to see if we are truly serious about living a happy and fulfilling life. I know that it is scary, but I’d say that living a life full of excuses and fear is worse than going after your dreams. So what if you fail? You are living the life of happiness in the pursuit.