Let Go of All the Negative Memories and Embrace a Positive Future!

We live in a world of constant and often frightening change and never know of our tomorrow (s). I often ask myself … what will tomorrow bring!  Will I have a blessed day with no worries or sickness upon me? Will I be able to cope with what will be passed to me through my day? But, more importantly… will I make a difference?

Finally, it dawns on me that I am so blessed to just be able to wake up and open my eyes each and every morning. I get to experience glorious Life, yet again.  I should treasure each day and make everyday day count in my life.

We must not dwell on the past and ruin our present. Our past sometimes can haunt us and make our present day not too enjoyable. If your own past has haunted you and it’s fixable, then go after the problem and resolve it, so that you can live in peace.

If it cannot be fixed, then choose to let it go.

As time and moments pass us by, they are then called “memories”  and can be either positive or negative. We all want to have in our lives the best and happiest memories. None of us want to have bad memories of anything, but unfortunately, we will have many of them and disappointments to go along with them.  It’s good to put everything in perspective.

I try to live everyday to the fullest and make each day count because there is no guarantee to the length of our individual times on Earth. In my journey, there have been acquired lessons of great value. Treat all people with respect and kindness. Turn the other cheek as hard as it might be. Learn to love and respect yourself, because without that, you will have a hard time loving and respecting others.

Really appreciate what you have in your Life and don’t take anything for granted. We can all improve the quality of our existence with some extra hard work to achieve a personal goal. However, if that goal is not achieved, the gain is in the personal knowledge that all effort was put forth in the venture of trying.

I try to make it a habit to glance into the sky and say thanks for all things in Life… exactly as given. My days are rewarding; yet challenging, enlightening; even at this point in my life, and exhausting; while at the same time… I wouldn’t want it any other way.

Each day we experience is as different and individual as each one of us.   May we all choose to live it well!

Integrity… the Right Choice… is Often a Hard Choice!

I define Integrity as “doing the right thing, regardless of the outcome.” It is not always easy to do that. Often, we are worried about how others might view us or if they will “like” us. With our family, it is often will they “love” us. I bump into this one often. To make it a clearer choice for myself… I usually think about … will like myself if I do not do the right thing? Then, my path or “choice” becomes clearer. At the end of the day, the only thing each of us owns free and clear is ourselves; that is both mind and body. Integrity is ours when we do the right thing for others… not only ourselves.

A few years ago, it was mentioned by one of my own family members… that my “choices” sometimes affected them. That both surprised and saddened me at the same time. We had been going through a period of great change in our immediate lives and it sometimes required that I focus on my own issues and healing … in additon to theirs. I had erroneously reasoned that unless I was “healthy” in mind, body, and spirit …I would be of no use to them. So, in order to do that, I had become “unhealthy” to them. I didn’t see it that way, but they did. All I knew was I believed in my heart that I was doing “the right thing” for them… as well as myself.

That’s when the light went on! Each of us feels tested and challenged, some more so than others by mere personality. We recover in the best and only way we know how, at the time. Is it always the best for the other people in our lives? Maybe not. However, we do the best that we can with what hand we have been dealt. While I was busy being proud of myself for my own personal accomplishments of not ‘falling apart’ at this new test in Life …they saw my actions/ words as inappropriate. While I was trying my best to keep it “all together,” for them more than myself, they saw my actions as negative.

And then, one night as I was falling asleep…Eureka! At that particular time, I really believed in my heart and soul that I was doing the best I could in that given situation and with Integrity. But our personal definition of Integrity, and doing the “right thing” may not be someone else’s definition then or even now. Is there a right way and is there a wrong way of dealing with things in our lives that are difficult? What I realized…in a moment of clarity…was that our personal ”right way” of doing something maybe someone else’s “wrong way” of handling the same trial or test.

We must do the best we can, each time, and always do it with purity of heart and intentions. But, brace yourself…sometimes, it may not be viewed as we would like.   Keep the destination in sight. I have to believe it is all seen from above by God. I personally don’t believed that: “The road to Hell is paved with good intentions,” as the cliche goes. Good intentions… are always good, even if they fail. If you tried your hardest… then regardless of the outcome, you did it with Integrity.

Peace to all.